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Day 21 of 60 · Week 3

Three weeks

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Three weeks in: most babies are back to birth weight, a hungrier stretch may be starting, and the famous copycat study is still being argued over.

A Black mother on a sofa in morning window light holds her three-week-old upright in her lap and sticks out her tongue at them, the baby staring back.

Three weeks. The days have probably blurred into one long day with naps in it. Today is a small marker: your baby is likely back to birth weight, and a hungrier week may be on its way.

Heart

There's a famous experiment you may have heard of. In 1977, Meltzoff and Moore reported that babies 12 to 21 days old imitated gestures like sticking out the tongue (Meltzoff & Moore, 1977). Your baby is right in that window. But a 2016 study that tested 106 infants at 1, 3, 6, and 9 weeks found no imitation (Oostenbroek et al., 2016), and Meltzoff's team then reanalyzed that raw data and reported tongue-protrusion imitation at every age (Meltzoff et al., 2018). It isn't settled.

So make faces for fun, not as a test. If your baby copies you, enjoy it. If not, nothing is wrong.

What your baby does reliably is look at you. Within an hour of birth, newborns followed a moving face-like pattern farther than scrambled versions, and that preference faded during the second month (Johnson et al., 1991). This month, your face is the most interesting thing in the room. Use it.

Body

Most babies are back to birth weight by about 2 weeks, almost all by 3 weeks, and from here the average baby gains almost an ounce a day (AAP). Growth spurts, around 7 to 10 days and again at 3 to 6 weeks, can bring extra-hungry stretches (AAP). If the next few days feel like one long feed, that's why.

Several short feeds bunched together, often in the evening, is cluster feeding, a normal pattern (Cleveland Clinic). Keep feeding on cues, and let someone else own dinner.

Try today

  1. On the sofa in morning window light the Black mother holds her three-week-old upright about ten inches from her face and opens her mouth wide and slowly, the baby staring at her mouth.

    The copy-me game

    Time: A minute or two, when your baby is quiet and alert · Face-to-face chats in the guide

    1. Wait for a calm, alert moment: eyes open, body still.

    2. Hold your baby 8 to 12 inches from your face, where they see best (AAP).

    3. Slowly stick out your tongue, hold it for a few seconds, then pull it back in.

    4. Wait. Newborns respond slowly, if they respond at all.

    5. Try an open mouth or raised eyebrows next, and stop when they look away.

    Make it work:

    No scorekeeping. Looking away means "break, please."

Watch for

  • Normal

    a cord stump that has fallen off, or is about to, leaving a few drops of blood on the diaper.

    Book a visit

    if the stump is still there after 3 weeks, and call the same day for foul-smelling discharge, red skin around the base, or crying when you touch it (AAP).

  • Normal

    a baby who has regained their birth weight, or is close; your pediatrician tracks this (AAP).

    Call your pediatrician right away

    if your baby is feeding poorly or has a weak suck (Nationwide Children's).

  • Normal

    a baby who seems a little off to you and turns out fine.

    Call anyway

    if your baby just doesn't seem right. Trust your instincts (Lurie Children's).

For you

The Black mother crosses the living room slowly in morning light, a hand on her lower belly, the three-week-old on her shoulder, her partner carrying the laundry basket up the stairs behind her.

If you had a C-section, three weeks matters for you too. The incision can stay tender for 3 weeks or more, and soaking in a tub is usually off the table until your provider clears it, often at about 3 weeks, so ask (MedlinePlus). Most regular activities come back in 4 to 8 weeks; until then, lift nothing heavier than your baby (MedlinePlus).

If you gave birth vaginally, bleeding may last up to 6 weeks and should be lighter and paler by now. Call your provider if it gets heavier again or smells foul (MedlinePlus).

If you're the partner: she's moving more easily, which makes it easy to forget she's still healing. Keep carrying the laundry basket.

Sources

This guide is general education that summarizes published research and guidance from groups like the American Academy of Pediatrics, the CDC, and the WHO. It isn’t medical advice, and every child develops on their own timeline. Your pediatrician knows your child; if something feels wrong, call them. In an emergency, call 911.

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