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Day 191 of 300 · Week 26

Hungry, full, done

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Closed lips, a turned head, a hand on the spoon: your baby already says when they're done. How to read hunger and fullness, and why a grimace isn't a verdict.

A Korean American mother sits at a kitchen table beside her twenty-six-week-old, buckled upright in a high chair, the baby's lips pressed shut against a spoon of green puree, morning light.

Ten days into solids, the question has changed from what to how much. Your baby decides, and they're already telling you.

Heart

Hunger looks like reaching for food, opening up for the spoon, or getting excited when food appears. Full looks like pushing food away, closing the mouth, or turning the head (CDC). Closing their lips to show they don't want more is on the 6-month milestone list: a skill, not a refusal (CDC). Let your baby decide how much. They don't need to finish the jar, and food shouldn't be a reward or a punishment (CDC). If they cry or turn away, stop and try again another time (AAP).

Head

Taste is learned slowly. When 36 babies 4 to 6 months old were fed a new vegetable 10 times, all of them ate more of it afterward (Sullivan & Birch, 1994). In a trial of 45 babies, 8 days of green beans raised intake from 56.8 to 93.6 grams, even though many kept making faces (Forestell & Mennella, 2007). The AAP puts the number at 10 to 15 tries before a baby accepts a new food (AAP). The face your baby made at carrots on Tuesday is try one of fifteen.

Body

A little breast milk or formula first keeps a very hungry baby from getting frustrated, and the serving is still half a spoonful or less, working up to a teaspoon or two (AAP). Hold the spoon near their lips and wait for the open mouth, or not. A gag isn't a no: at 6 months the gag reflex sits far forward, so coughing, gagging, and pushing food out are expected in the first months of solids (Children's Wisconsin). The no is the closed lips and the turned head.

Try today

  1. The mother writing a tick on a paper sheet taped to the fridge, the baby in the high chair behind her with green puree on both cheeks, the father watching from the table.

    Ten tries of green beans

    Time: 5 minutes, at one meal · Feed with your baby, not at them in the guide

    1. Pick the food your baby turned down this week and serve it after a little milk, so hunger doesn't run the show (AAP).

    2. In the high chair, buckled, hold half a spoonful near their lips and wait for the open mouth; if it doesn't come, that's today's answer (AAP).

    3. Stop at the first closed lips, turned head, or push (CDC).

    4. On a sheet on the fridge, write the food and a tick: "green beans, 3." Grimaces don't count against it (Forestell & Mennella, 2007).

    5. Offer it again in a day or two, until the ticks reach ten (Sullivan & Birch, 1994).

    Make it work:

    A try is a taste offered, not swallowed. Nothing goes into a crying baby; stop and try another time (AAP).

Watch for

  • Normal

    lips clamped shut at the third spoonful; the 6-month list calls that communication (CDC).

    Call your pediatrician right away

    for a mild reaction after a new food, like a new rash, a few hives around the mouth or face, or diarrhea, and hold that food until you've talked (NIAID).

  • Normal

    a face like you've served a lemon, then an open mouth for more (Forestell & Mennella, 2007).

    Call 911

    for swelling of the lips, face, or tongue, widespread hives, vomiting, wheezing, repeated coughing, pale or blue skin, or sudden floppiness after a food (NIAID).

  • Normal

    a big eater one day and no interest the next; breast milk or formula is still the main nutrition (CDC).

    Call your pediatrician right away

    if your baby seems dehydrated: no urine in more than 8 hours, dark urine, a very dry mouth, or no tears (AAP).

For you

The mother on the back step with a mug, laughing at a dried smear of green on her own sleeve, the father inside at the window holding the baby.

A grimace isn't a verdict, for the baby or for you. The green-bean babies made faces for eight days and ate more anyway (Forestell & Mennella, 2007). You'll make faces at this month too: the mess, the waste, the third bib before noon. A face at a bad day isn't a verdict on it.

What is a verdict is duration: feelings that are severe or last longer than 2 weeks may be postpartum depression, and it responds to treatment (NIMH). One bad meal is a tick on the sheet, nothing more.

If you're the partner: you write the ticks. A small job that says the tries are counted by both of you.

Sources

This guide is general education that summarizes published research and guidance from groups like the American Academy of Pediatrics, the CDC, and the WHO. It isn’t medical advice, and every child develops on their own timeline. Your pediatrician knows your child; if something feels wrong, call them. In an emergency, call 911.

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